Many betrayed partners start down the road of dealing with cheating in their relationship only to at some point begin to realize that their ... Read More »
Is My Partner A Sex Addict (or Not)?
Betrayed partners often ask me, “How do I know if my partner is a sex addict?“ Usually, they are looking at the pattern of sexual behavior involved in ... Read More »
The Cheater’s Dilemma: Competing Attachments
We have talked in previous posts about the dilemma that betrayed partners experience when they feel attachment ambivalence toward their cheating ... Read More »
Why Cheaters Cheat, Part 3: Sexualized Dependency Needs
One of the most compelling issues underlying infidelity is the way in which cheaters’ self-perception and feelings change in the moment of sexually ... Read More »
Why Cheaters Cheat, Part 2: Understanding the Arousal Template
Author, speaker, and educator Patrick Carnes, PhD, defines the arousal template as "the total constellation of thoughts, images, behaviors, sounds, ... Read More »
Why Cheaters Cheat (Hint: it’s not about the sex)
One of the biggest questions haunting betrayed partners, often for months and even years after discovery of the betrayal, is why. Why did he cheat? ... Read More »
The Cheater Before Discovery & the Cheater After Discovery: Two Different People
Today’s blog is written not just for you as a betrayed partner, but for your therapists, your pastors, your friends and family members, your 12-Step ... Read More »
What To Expect From Your Cheating Partner at the Beginning of Recovery: The Good News
If your partner is taking his need for help seriously and is fully committing to a process of recovery, there are certain things you can expect to see ... Read More »
What To Expect From Your Cheating Partner at The Beginning of Recovery: The Bad News
One of the things betrayed partners invariably want to know is what to expect related to their cheating partner’s recovery process. The first and most ... Read More »
