I have been taking September to have some much needed R&R at the beach with friends and family and to work on some other projects. But the beach ... Read More »
Musings on the Sex after Betrayal Intensive
We are taking a break this week from our Attachment Shame blog series to share some reflections about our recent Sex After Betrayal Intensive and to ... Read More »
Healing the Sexual Injury Caused by Betrayal, Part 4
We have spent the past several weeks looking at how sexual betrayal impacts the betrayed partner’s sexuality. I hope these posts have been helpful and ... Read More »
Foreboding Joy
Recently, I was listening to an audio recording of Brené Brown, Ph.D. As many of you know, she researches and speaks about issues of shame, ... Read More »
Betrayal Requires Relational Recovery
If the significant wound of betrayal happens in relationship (and betrayal is always relational), then it makes sense that our healing and restoration ... Read More »
Rebuilding Safety After Betrayal: The Most Important Stage
Last week, we talked about the first two stages in the process of rebuilding safety after betrayal: getting help and getting honest. Many couples ... Read More »
The 3 Stages of Rebuilding Safety After Betrayal
The most significant need partners have in the aftermath of betrayal is for their sense of relational and emotional safety to be restored. ... Read More »
When “I’m Sorry” Doesn’t Mean “I’m Safe”
Perhaps you have had the following experience. Your cheating partner comes to you and gives you, with sincere feeling, clear regret, and obvious ... Read More »
Phase 5: Creating (Continued)
The creating phase is where all that you dreamed of and thought about in the re-imagining phase begins to take shape. In this phase, the changes that ... Read More »
