Michelle Mays
Authentic Hope After Betrayal
A concept coined by Michelle Mays, attachment ambivalence is the relational dilemma that occurs when betrayed partners' fear and attachment systems fire simultaneously in response to the threat of betrayal but with opposite safety imperatives. Our attachment systems tells us to move toward the cheating partner to reconnect to find safety. At the same time, our threat response system tells us to … Read more
According to a study of partners of sex addicts conducted by Barbara Steffens in 2006, 71% of … Read More »
As we begin this new year, let’s start together with kindness. When anyone is suffering and hurt – … Read More »
After the discovery of betrayal, trained therapeutic support can help you and your partner address … Read More »
In this series of posts, we are exploring the way in which betrayal creates traumatic responses that … Read More »
In this series of posts, we are exploring the way in which betrayal creates traumatic responses that … Read More »
When we experience danger, stress or trauma our threat response system fires up and moves us to … Read More »
We haven’t had some book love for a while here on the blog so I thought I would share two great new … Read More »
Sexual betrayal is a relational trauma that impacts our sense of safety, trust, and security with … Read More »
The holiday season brings both expectations of joy and pressure to fulfill those expectations. We … Read More »
In the last two posts we’ve been looking at the complex issues that partners face when deciding … Read More »
In last week’s post we looked at the emotionally charged issues around staying or leaving the … Read More »
If you have spent any time in online forums or groups for betrayed partners, you know that a big … Read More »
It’s Thanksgiving this week and as a result you may be seeing things show up in your inbox reminding … Read More »
We have made it to the final post in the series on anger! We began by looking at the positive … Read More »
We have been exploring the emotion of anger in this series of blog posts. Over the past few weeks, … Read More »
My sister is a potter. Well, really she is an artist and one of the ways she expresses all the … Read More »
Last week we began our look at the final phase of the Braving Hope Process: flourishing. This week, … Read More »
Over the past few months, we have been looking at the phases of the Braving Hope Process for healing … Read More »
