In this insightful episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland sits down with Michelle Mays, author of The Betrayal Bind and founder of the Relational Recovery Institute, to explore the harmful and complex dynamics of gaslighting in relationships, especially in the context of betrayal trauma. Michelle breaks down the four distinct types of gaslighting—lying, reality manipulation, scapegoating, and coercion—while discussing their profound impact on mental health.
The conversation delves into the stages of gaslighting, the emotional toll it takes on both partners, and the concept of betrayal blindness. Michelle also offers valuable guidance on how betrayed partners can begin to reclaim their power and heal from the emotional damage caused by deception.
This episode provides a compassionate and informative look into how to navigate and recover from the effects of gaslighting, offering listeners both understanding and hope.
Key Topics Covered:
- The four types of gaslighting and their effects
- The stages of gaslighting for betrayed partners
- The role of betrayal blindness and self-deception
- Steps toward healing and rebuilding trust
For anyone who has experienced betrayal or gaslighting in their relationship, this episode is a must-listen, providing critical insights and practical steps toward recovery.
Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She’s also the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst. Michelle has created a new treatment model to address the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing.
