I often hear betrayed partners talk about receiving disclosure after disclosure from their partner as the secrets and lies around the cheating behaviors trickle out over weeks and months after the initial discovery. What they are really receiving is more discovery, not disclosure.
Disclosure is a facilitated, carefully prepared and supported process where the unfaithful individual provides his or her partner with a fully honest account of his or her history of cheating or sexual acting out behaviors.
Discovery is when partial truth is unintentionally revealed or is told in bits and pieces over time as the cheating partner attempts to limit the damage from their behaviors and keep information hidden.
These are two very different processes that are experienced very differently by the betrayed partner and should not be confused with one another. Below is a chart outlining the differences between disclosure and discovery to help you differentiate between the two.
About the Author:
Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She’s also the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. Michelle has created a new treatment model to address the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing.
Braving Hope™ is a ground-breaking coaching intensive for betrayed partners around the world. Working with Michelle will help you to move out of the devastation of betrayal, relieve your trauma symptoms and reclaim your life.
