In my previous two posts, we deepened our understanding of complex trauma, primarily focusing on the fact that when relational betrayal occurs, the ... Read More »
Complex Partner Betrayal Trauma & Relational Disconnection
In last week’s post, I introduced the concept of complex trauma, which Christine Courtois defines as “traumatic stressors that are interpersonal, that ... Read More »
Complex Partner Betrayal Trauma & Emotional Dysregulation
Partner betrayal trauma makes you feel like you are losing your mind. It puts you on an emotional rack and pulls you in opposite directions until you ... Read More »
Why We Sherlock, Part 3
In Part 1 of this series on Sherlocking, we discussed the fact that early in the healing process betrayed partners tend to spy, snoop, and sleuth to ... Read More »
Why We Sherlock, Part 2
You know that you sleuth, spy, and snoop to find out the truth about the betrayal in your relationship, to validate that what you have been told about ... Read More »
Why We Sherlock, Part 1
Yes, I did. I just turned Sherlock into a verb. Someone slap a trademark on that for me, please. As you’ve probably already guessed, what I want to ... Read More »
Setting Realistic Expectations After Betrayal
In the aftermath of betrayal, your body and mind are struggling with an ongoing trauma response. As we have discussed elsewhere, betrayal is something ... Read More »
Resisting the Temptation to Isolate After Betrayal
In the aftermath of betrayal, it can be tempting to isolate – curling into yourself and hiding away from the rest of the world. When you are wounded, ... Read More »
Phase 1: Devastation (Continued)
Last week we looked at one of the two key questions that betrayed partners who have entered the devastation phase are asking, “What is happening to ... Read More »
