Two weeks ago, we looked at the way that the relational disconnection caused by betrayal triggers shame about our worthiness, value and our ability to ... Read More »
In last week’s post I defined attachment shame as a specific type of shame felt by betrayed partners around their experience of connection and ... Read More »
One of the most common questions I hear from betrayed partners who have decided to try and stay in the relationship with the cheater is this:
“What ... Read More »
In last week’s post we discussed the issue of attachment ambivalence. Attachment ambivalence is the phenomenon of having two opposing safety ... Read More »
A concept coined by Michelle Mays, attachment ambivalence is the relational dilemma that occurs when betrayed partners' fear and attachment systems ... Read More »
Humans do not like uncertainty. We like a clear direction. An arrow pointing the way. A road that is paved and marked with bright yellow stripes ... Read More »
“Should I cut my losses and leave now?” If you’ve asked this question, you’re not alone. Many if not most betrayed partners wrestle with thoughts ... Read More »
After discovery of infidelity, betrayed partners often feel pressured to make a black and white decision about leaving or staying in their ... Read More »
In the immediate aftermath of discovering betrayal, emotions run high for both the betrayed partner and the offending partner. There is chaos and ... Read More »
The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst
Michelle Mays’ new book introduces language, concepts, and imagery to explore the crucial relational dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing.
