If I had a nickel for every betrayed partner who has told me a horror story about contacting the cheater’s affair partner, I could buy myself and ... Read More »
Resisting the Temptation to Isolate After Betrayal
In the aftermath of betrayal, it can be tempting to isolate – curling into yourself and hiding away from the rest of the world. When you are wounded, ... Read More »
Offending From The Victim Position, Part 3: Longing For Empathy
We have spent the last two weeks looking at the unhealthy and shame-based parts of ourselves that can drive us into offending from the victim ... Read More »
Offending From The Victim Position, Part 2: Defending Against The Shame Attack
One of the biggest and most potent feelings betrayed partners struggle with is shame. Shame comes packaged in many different forms, but it always ... Read More »
Offending From The Victim Position, Part 1: Getting Revenge
I remember a day (I wish there was just one but unfortunately there were many) when the pain, uncertainty, and stress of dealing with my sexually ... Read More »
You Deserve Help & Healing After Betrayal, Even if You Are Leaving Your Relationship
"I'm divorcing, so I don't need help." Recently a client decided that the best and healthiest route for her was to end her relationship with her ... Read More »
Getting Triggered
Recently I was sitting in a group for partners of sex addicts, and over and over again the women kept referring to being “triggered.” They sprinkled ... Read More »
Betrayal: It’s Not Your Fault
Most betrayed partners carry the burden of the same secret fear: that it is some lack in them that has caused their significant other to seek sexual ... Read More »
Connecting the Dots After Betrayal
After discovering betrayal, most partners typically experience a period where they are flooded with memories and emotions as they begin to connect the ... Read More »