After discovering betrayal, one of the most significant needs most partners have is to establish a sense of safety for themselves. And one of the most ... Read More »
Permission To Create Boundaries
One of the most important and life-changing things that betrayed partners learn in the healing process is how to set boundaries. Many partners are ... Read More »
Using Your Voice, Part 3: Becoming Vulnerable
In my previous two posts, I discussed the difference between reacting from your trauma symptoms and anchoring yourself in truth. Reacting can feel ... Read More »
Using Your Voice, Part 2: Anchoring Yourself
In my previous post, I wrote about the way in which betrayed partners can mistakenly think that they are using their voice effectively while actually ... Read More »
Using Your Voice, Part 1: Throwing a Breakable
“So I said, and I admit I went a little crazy here, but I said to him, ‘If you ever get on that phone of yours again and text another woman I will ... Read More »
Go To A 12 Step Meeting? You Gotta Be Kidding Me
“You have got to be kidding me! You want me to go to a 12-step meeting when my partner is the addict? What did I do to deserve that lovely suggestion? ... Read More »
Getting Educated, Part 2: It’s A Marathon, Not A Sprint
Educating yourself about betrayal is just like everything else in the healing process: a marathon not a sprint. Nevertheless, many of the betrayed ... Read More »
Getting Educated, Part 1: Pace Yourself
When I was in graduate school we had to go on a day-long silent retreat. I was just beginning to understand that my spouse was dealing with sexual ... Read More »
Finding Safe Friends For Support
Managing the aftermath of betrayal is a relational task. This means you need support from others. In addition to having a good therapist, having a few ... Read More »
