For most partners who are waiting to see if it is possible to stay in their relationship, there is a period after the discovery of betrayal when they ... Read More »
Coming To The Moment of Truth
Have you caught yourself, even months after the discovery of betrayal, snooping and spying and checking on your cheating partner? It’s likely that you ... Read More »
Creating And Maintaining Boundaries, Part 2
After discovering infidelity, one of the most important skills you need as a betrayed partner is the ability to set and maintain effective boundaries. ... Read More »
Creating And Maintaining Effective Boundaries, Part 1
After discovering betrayal, one of the most significant needs most partners have is to establish a sense of safety for themselves. And one of the most ... Read More »
Permission To Create Boundaries
One of the most important and life-changing things that betrayed partners learn in the healing process is how to set boundaries. Many partners are ... Read More »
Using Your Voice, Part 3: Becoming Vulnerable
In my previous two posts, I discussed the difference between reacting from your trauma symptoms and anchoring yourself in truth. Reacting can feel ... Read More »
Using Your Voice, Part 2: Anchoring Yourself
In my previous post, I wrote about the way in which betrayed partners can mistakenly think that they are using their voice effectively while actually ... Read More »
Using Your Voice, Part 1: Throwing a Breakable
“So I said, and I admit I went a little crazy here, but I said to him, ‘If you ever get on that phone of yours again and text another woman I will ... Read More »
Go To A 12 Step Meeting? You Gotta Be Kidding Me
“You have got to be kidding me! You want me to go to a 12-step meeting when my partner is the addict? What did I do to deserve that lovely suggestion? ... Read More »