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When Gratitude Feels Hard: A Thanksgiving Message for the Hurting Heart

Thanksgiving can be a beautiful holiday and a brutally complicated one when you’re healing from betrayal. As the world around us leans into gratitude, gathering, and connection, you may find yourself sitting with emotions that feel anything but thankful. Your body may still be carrying the shock, grief, and distrust that betrayal creates. You may be navigating a relationship that feels … Read more

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Devastation Phase

Heartbreak & Valentine’s Day

Celebrating romantic love is a wonderful thing, but what happens if your love breaks … Read More »

Circuit Overload: The Early Symptoms of Betrayal Trauma

According to a study of partners of sex addicts conducted by Barbara Steffens in 2006, 71% of … Read More »

Let’s Start the New Year with Kindness

As we begin this new year, let’s start together with kindness. When anyone is suffering and hurt – … Read More »

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Realization Phase

When We Go Blind to Cheating

Article in Psychology Today Michelle Mays’ latest blog post, When We Go Blind to Cheating, … Read More »

The Nature of Betrayal, Part 2

In the last blog post, we started looking at the five stages that all betraying individuals move … Read More »

The Nature of Betrayal, Part 1

We use the word betrayal to describe the experience at the heart of broken trust. But betrayal is … Read More »

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Stabilization Phase

Reframing “Codependency” for Relational Recovery

We all have a true self. This is our most authentic self, who we were created to be. Our true self … Read More »

Book Love – August 2022

We haven’t had some book love for a while here on the blog so I thought I would share two great new … Read More »

Protest, Despair, Detachment: 3 Predictable Responses to Loss of Safe Connection

Sexual betrayal is a relational trauma that impacts our sense of safety, trust, and security with … Read More »

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Reimagining Phase

The Betrayal Bind: Why Infidelity Leaves You Feeling Stuck, Conflicted, and Unable to Move on

If you have experienced betrayal, you know the feeling of being stuck. You feel trapped between the … Read More »

When Gratitude Feels Hard: A Thanksgiving Message for the Hurting Heart

Thanksgiving can be a beautiful holiday and a brutally complicated one when you’re healing from … Read More »

Putting Forgiveness into Practice After Betrayal

Last week, we discussed the often-misunderstood concept of forgiveness and what it means for you and … Read More »

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Creating Phase

Creating in the Valley: How Pain Can Lead Us Back to Purpose

Creating in the Valley – Steve Brock I was speaking to a large gathering of business people about … Read More »

Three Years in…

What are we doing, and why are we doing it? This week, we are celebrating three years since the … Read More »

The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays

A Sneak Peek at My New Book As a special thank you to all of you for following along and … Read More »

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Flourishing Phase

But If Not…

My sister is a potter. Well, really she is an artist and one of the ways she expresses all the … Read More »

Phase 6: Flourishing (Continued)

Last week we began our look at the final phase of the Braving Hope Process: flourishing. This week, … Read More »

Phase 6: Flourishing

Over the past few months, we have been looking at the phases of the Braving Hope Process for healing … Read More »

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The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst

Michelle Mays’ new book introduces language, concepts, and imagery to explore the crucial relational dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing.

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