We live in a culture that does not approve of big feelings. We don’t approve of little feelings very much either. All the feelings that we have are ... Read More »
Avoiding The Moment of Truth
For most partners who are waiting to see if it is possible to stay in their relationship, there is a period after the discovery of betrayal when they ... Read More »
Coming To The Moment of Truth
Have you caught yourself, even months after the discovery of betrayal, snooping and spying and checking on your cheating partner? It’s likely that you ... Read More »
Phase 3: Stabilization (Continued)
Last week we talked about some of the factors that keep betrayed partners from transitioning out of devastation and realization into the stabilization ... Read More »
Phase 3: Stabilization
Over the past few weeks we have looked at the first two phases of the Authentic Hope Process for healing from betrayal trauma: the devastation and ... Read More »
Offending From The Victim Position, Part 3: Longing For Empathy
We have spent the last two weeks looking at the unhealthy and shame-based parts of ourselves that can drive us into offending from the victim ... Read More »
Offending From The Victim Position, Part 2: Defending Against The Shame Attack
One of the biggest and most potent feelings betrayed partners struggle with is shame. Shame comes packaged in many different forms, but it always ... Read More »
Offending From The Victim Position, Part 1: Getting Revenge
I remember a day (I wish there was just one but unfortunately there were many) when the pain, uncertainty, and stress of dealing with my sexually ... Read More »
Listening To Your Gut
For many betrayed partners, the adage about hindsight being 20/20 feels very true. They look back after discovering infidelity and see so clearly all ... Read More »