Many betrayed partners come into therapy in a state of shock and disbelief about their partner’s extracurricular sexual behaviors. They sit on my ... Read More »
Creating And Maintaining Boundaries, Part 2
After discovering infidelity, one of the most important skills you need as a betrayed partner is the ability to set and maintain effective boundaries. ... Read More »
Creating And Maintaining Effective Boundaries, Part 1
After discovering betrayal, one of the most significant needs most partners have is to establish a sense of safety for themselves. And one of the most ... Read More »
Permission To Create Boundaries
One of the most important and life-changing things that betrayed partners learn in the healing process is how to set boundaries. Many partners are ... Read More »
Weathering No Man’s Land, Part 2
The stretch of desert called no man’s land feels intolerable for betrayed partners. Nevertheless, the inherent manner in which healing betrayal trauma ... Read More »
Weathering No Man’s Land, Part I
When betrayed partners first enter treatment they are often mid-trauma. There is no post-traumatic stress; instead, they are dealing with ongoing ... Read More »
Using Your Voice, Part 3: Becoming Vulnerable
In my previous two posts, I discussed the difference between reacting from your trauma symptoms and anchoring yourself in truth. Reacting can feel ... Read More »
Using Your Voice, Part 2: Anchoring Yourself
In my previous post, I wrote about the way in which betrayed partners can mistakenly think that they are using their voice effectively while actually ... Read More »
Using Your Voice, Part 1: Throwing a Breakable
“So I said, and I admit I went a little crazy here, but I said to him, ‘If you ever get on that phone of yours again and text another woman I will ... Read More »
